WHY TIME with NannyGranne


(The guest writer for this post is the author of the Zoey books, David Roper.)

If you wish to instill faith in your child, the most important resource is the Bible. “Faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ” (Romans 10:17). The second most important resource is you. Your child needs to see and hear you read the Bible, needs to see and hear you pray, and needs to see and hear how you respond to the challenges of life with faith. All this is part of “bring[ing]them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4; see Proverbs 22:6).

However, there are also TOOLS that conscientious parents use to help them in this most important task. These include Bible classes (and other activities for their youth supplied by the church) and Bible picture books that you use with your children. The ZOEY books fall into the latter category—but are unique regarding faith building. They do not merely have a story with Biblical teaching the child will enjoy; they also include apologetics principles, introducing basic arguments for the existence of God, the deity of Jesus, and the inspiration of the Bible. For instance, the first Zoey book (ZOEY LIKES TO ASK QUESTIONS) notes that everything that exists has been made—it did not “just happen”—and then moves from there to the One who made everything: God.

The second Zoey Book (ZOEY STILL LIKES TO ASK QUESTIONS) will move from there to this logical conclusion: If God made us (and He did), it is reasonable to believe that He would communicate with His creation—and that communication is the Bible.

The Zoey books have been written with preschoolers in mind. We hope parents and others will start reading them to their children while they are still babies. Reading to a baby in your lap connects books and reading books in their minds with comfort, security, and love. Reading the Zoey books also connects those specific books with those things—and will help make these books favorites as they learn to read.

But we did not want to stop there with resources for instilling faith. Featured on this website is the blog WHY TIME WITH NANNYGRANNE, in which Anne Coleman addresses questions and issues that concern children, questions and issues that can impact faith if not addressed knowledgably, gently, and lovingly. Anne is assisted by her son Travis who has a degree in apologetics. If you have not signed up to follow her blog, you need to do that.

There are other resources we will mention from time to time, such as series of apologetic books for older children—but I want to close with one more: Anne also has a Facebook page on which she has been referring her readers to videos that address apologetics questions, such as arguments for and against the existence of God.

It would be worthwhile to also “like” that page so you won’t miss any of her recommendations. Her Facebook page is also labeled “WHY TIME with Nannygranne.”

Until next time I guest post, I send out a prayer for you and yours. David Roper




Did God Make Satan?

As we rode in the car, we discussed the fact that we all have questions about many things, but that God helps us find the answers by from the message He left us—the Bible—and by watching the world around us..

“I have a question,” she offered.

“Good!” I smiled, “Questions help us learn.  What’s your question?”

She turned to me with a look of concern.  “Did God make Satan?”  I knew she needed not only the facts but reassurance concerning Satan and his power.  Then she pulled out her iPad just in case she’d need it.

“Well, I know a little bit about Satan from the Bible….and from seeing a lot of the bad stuff that happens in our world.”  I began.  “Do you think God made Satan?”

Shrugging her shoulders, she concentrated on her iPad.  She didn’t want to venture a guess.

“But Satan is bad, right?”  To that, she nodded her head soberly.  “And God’s only supposed to make good things, right?”  This time, with eyes searching mind, she nodded her head slightly.  “When God finished making everything, He stood back and looked at it and said, ‘See?  It is very good!’.  So when God made Adam and Eve they were good, right?” (Gen 1:31)

“I guess so.”  Cautious now, in case this was a test.

“You are exactly right,” I assured her.  “God made Adam and Eve and said they were very good.  But did they do anything they shouldn’t have?”

“They ate the Forbidden Fruit!”  She was glad to know the answer.

“They sure did!  Why do you think they did that?”

She looked at me, studying my face for a clue.  Then looking back at her iPad she said, “They were hungry?”

“Well, that could be one reason, but there was plenty to eat in the garden.  God had given them lots of trees full of good stuff to eat.  I think Eve got curious and went to look at God’sforbidden tree.  And then you remember Satan talked her into eating what God had told them not to eat?”

“Oh yeah!” she said.

“Satan wanted them to do what he wanted and make them get in trouble,” I explained.  “And Adam and Eve did get into trouble.  They did something bad.”  She was quiet now.  I could tell she was mulling good vs. bad in the story.  I continued. “But did God make them bad?”

“No, it wasn’t God’s fault,” she defended.

“You are right.  God made them good, but they didsomething bad and they did get into big trouble.   But God loved them, still, and the Bible tells us how He would help them get out of trouble again because He wanted them to be with Him.

“So did God make Satan?  He’s bad.”  She was ready to settle this.

“The Bible tells us that everything was created by Jesus, everything in heaven and on earth, everything we see and the things we can’t see, including everything in God’s world. Everything was created by God’s Son, and everything was made for Him.   Satan was an angel that God had made that chose to become God’s enemy. He is jealous and angry and tricky.”

“Oh!  So God did make Satan, but he was good at first and then went bad?”

“You understand!  Good for you!”

“Can Satan make us go bad?” I felt for her young heart, remembering my own uneasiness about there being something evil out there that I didn’t understand.

“He tries all the time, but he can’t makeus do bad things.  God promises to help us get out of trouble if we listen to Him, and when we become Christians He sends the Holy Spirit to live inside us and He’ll help keep Satan out, too. Then, when we listen to His word, the Holy Spirit teaches us how to live really well and how to make the world a better place, too.”

“So God made me good?”

“Yes, He certainly did.  He made all of us good.  But He knows we’ll get curious and do things that hurt Him, ourselves, and even others. That’s what it means to sin.  We don’t listen to God.  But God still wants us and will  always help us grow better and better as we listen closer and closer to Him.  So we need to choose God and try not to be selfish.”

At this, she smiled, bobbed her head decidedly and put away her iPad.  “OK,” she said.  “Can we stop for ice-cream?”  She’d read my mind.

* * * * * * * *

Col 1:16  Everything was created by him, everything in heaven and on earth, everything seen and unseen, including all forces and powers, and all rulers and authorities. All things were created by God’s Son, and everything was made for him. CEV

Eph 6:10-11  Finally, let the mighty strength of the Lord make you strong.  Put on all the armor that God gives, so you can defend yourself against the devil’s tricks. CEV

Eph 2:10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.

Will I Turn Into a Boy, Too, Like Chrissy? (Part Five)

I heard the knock on the front door.  My sweet friend had arrived with her mom.

“She brought a book she found at the library and said she wanted to read it to you,” her mom explained with eyebrows raised.

“Oh good!  We’ve been talking about this.  Has she told you?” I smiled.

“Yes, she did.  I’m so glad you’re helping.  I honestly didn’t know how to handle the subject.  Then it came up at school and I’m at a loss.”

“Well, I don’t have all the answers…but I think there are answers and I’ve given this a good deal of prayer and thought since yesterday.  I’ll keep you posted.” With a wink and a wave, she closed the door behind her, calling goodbye to her daughter.

“Oh, I see you’ve brought some things.  Show me what you have,” I said as I helped her off with her coat and shoes.

“I brought my LOL dolls and some gummies….and this book from the library,” she explained.

“We’re going to have an interesting day, then. And remember we’re going to bake some banana bread for you to take home today, too.”

She quickly went to the table and began to open her tiny dolls and arrange them just so.

“I see you have a little family there.  Tell me about it.” I ventured

“It’s a daddy and mommy and sister and baby,” she began.  “They are a family God’s way, huh?”

“They look like they are.”

“But I have two mommies and just one daddy.”  Her perception was beyond her age. Indeed, not everyone finds a lifetime spouse.

“Hmmm.  You mean you have two women and one man doll?  Which one is the mommy?”

“The one with the purple pants.”

“What do you think God wants the lady in black pants to do if she isn’t married?”

“I don’t know.  Will she get in trouble with God?”  She stopped her play and looked up at me, concern on her face.

“Remember we talked about how Jesus said not everybody needs to get married?”

“He did!”  Her honest surprise made me laugh.  I love kids and watching them discover the meaning of things for the first time.

“He did.” I assured her.  “In fact, when He told his disciples that God never wanted families to come apart, he also told them that not everyone needed to be married.  God had other things in mind for them to do to make the world a better place.”

“Like what kind of things?”

“Doing their work, helping and loving their parents and relatives and neighbors.  Teaching Bible class or being a college teacher.” The more I talked, the more enthusiastic my voice became.  “She could be a doctor or scientist, or maybe even an astronaut! Or maybe a missionary who lives on the other side of the world.  Or maybe just being the best aunt in the world who knows all about Jesus and His ways!”

“Oh.”  She turned back to her miniature family and said, “Aunt Sally is here for dinner.  Kids give her a kiss!” Then she looked at me and, smiling, continued. “Aunt Sally’s been a missionary helping the starving children in Africa!  She’s a doctor!” She certainly grasped the concept. Then she stopped and looked at me wide-eyed. “But will Aunt Sally be sad that she doesn’t have a husband or a baby?”   Her eyes widened.

“You know she might be sad from time to time.  But if she wants to get married, she always can.  But if she’s not married, God wouldn’t want her to have a baby without a daddy to help.  But she could take care of children who don’t have mommies and daddies to help them. ”

“Oh yeah!  That would be good!”

“And when I read my Bible, I see lots of ladies who didn’t have husbands or children and they were very important friends of Jesus and did very important things, too.”


“Well…there were two sisters named Mary and Martha, and another lady named Mary Magdalene, and some other ladies that worked in the church with the Apostles.  Let’s see….there was a lady named Phoebe and one named Lydia, and a girl named Rhoda…and maybe more.”

“Wow!  I didn’t know Jesus knew that many girls!”  I laughed and hugged her. She was so much fun!  “But my book talks about two mommies. Why?”

“Remember I said that there were a lot of people in this world with a lot of different ideas?  And remember how we said that some people don’t know God’s ways, and others just don’t want God or anyone to tell them what to do?”


“Well, the person who wrote that book wanted children to think that having two mommies and no daddy is fun.  But God made it so only a mommy and a daddy can make a baby. If mommies and daddies stopped having babies, we’d run out of humans.   Sometimes people do wrong things and we may be disappointed. And sometimes people want us to like everything they do. But we just don’t.  But that’s OK, too. It’s always right to choose God’s ways for ourselves.”

“But we still treat other people like we want to be treated,” she added seriously.

“Yes.  We can always treat others kindly.  Sometimes two men want to get married, or people live together and don’t want to get married.   And there are even some people who don’t want to take care of the babies God gives them.”

“Why don’t people want their babies!?”  She said as she stopped and looked at me in shock.

“Honey, people sometimes just don’t want God or anyone else stopping them from doing what they want to do.  So they make up their minds to do whatever they want or think of doing. The saddest part is that they’ve missed out on the beautiful plan God had for their lives and sometimes it’s because nobody told them what God’s plan was.  That’s why I’m glad you asked your question. I’m glad you know God’s dreams for you.”

“Me, too.”  She smiled up at me.  “I want God’s dreams for me to come true. ”

“Me, too,” I echoed.  “I hope you’ll always try really hard to listen to God’s word and learn His ways as long as you live.  Then all God’s dreams for you can come true.” I gave her a hug and said, “You ready to bake that banana bread now?”

“Yes!  Can I crack the eggs?”


~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~NOTES TO THE READER~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Our story is obviously elementary in nature; however, the issues addressed span all ages.  We hope you’ve gleaned from this the following points:

  1.  We need to adopt God’s perspective toward masculinity and femininity and avoid being offended when a person’s demeanor isn’t in line with modern western viewpoints.  (Examples being men who cook, sew, decorate, or are quieter in nature. Or women who are independent, leaders by nature, not gifted in domestic pursuits.) It is the object(s) of sexual desire and the behavioral outworkings of that desire which are paramount, not how personalities and talents coincide with particular stereotypical gender roles.
  2.  Accepting God’s wise design regarding marriage and singleness, realizing that everyone–whether married or single–has to learn to say (and accept) “NO” to sexual activity with anyone other than their spouse as husband and wife.  This is a mark of maturity and a life skill.
  3.  Value celibate singleness as a legitimate God-blessed choice and the opportunities it affords for individuals to serve our Master with fewer distractions. And whether it is chosen for a lifetime or just for a pre-marriage season, we must teach our children the responsibilities singleness holds.
  4.  Related to number 1 above, understand that the word “gay” is sometimes used to refer to anyone who doesn’t fit into the stereotypical gender molds.  This can result in our children concluding that if they feel “different,” then they must be “gay.” This perversion is usually orchestrated by the adults who push these confused youth over the psychological cliff by reinforcing and perpetuating this overly-broad application of “gayness.”

Will I Turn into a Boy, Too, Like Chrissy? (Part Four)

She helped me clear the table and carry lunch dishes into the kitchen.

“You want to wash the dishes?  I’ll dry and put them away and I can tell you more that I’ve learned about God’s dream for men and women together.”

“I like washing better than drying….thanks!”

As she dawdled with the suds and enjoyed dowsing and refilling cups, we could talk more. “Do you remember what Jesus said was God’s plan for husbands and wives?”

“Uh…..that they help each other live God’s way?”

Yes…but let me read what he told his friends when he was still living on earth. Someone had asked him if it was okay to get a divorce.” I dried my hands and pulled my phone out of my pocket, quickly finding the Easy English version of Matthew 19:4 and began to read.

‘You surely have read about this in God’s book,’ Jesus replied. ‘At the start of the world, God made men and he also made women. Because of this, a man leaves his father and his mother.  God joins him and his wife together. The man and the woman become like one person. They are not two separate people any longer. They are like one person. God has joined them together to be husband and wife.  So nobody must separate them.”

“So you can see that Jesus wanted people to live God’s way because He created us to be together and he doesn’t want families to come apart.”

“A lot of people get divorced,” she observed.  My Uncle Milo and Aunt Maya got a divorce.” She was a bright girl.  She wondered where this fit into her family.

“Yes, they do.  And people got divorces back then, too, but Jesus doesn’t want folks to have to go through that either. Divorces hurt, don’t they. Sometimes people just get stubborn and won’t try to stay on God’s path.”

She grew quiet, seeming to turn it all over in her mind. Finally she said, “Yeah. Everybody’s feelings were hurt. I miss seeing Aunt Maya and my cousins.”

“The Apostle Paul, a really wise friend of Jesus, said that even though sometimes people have really messed up their lives by just doing what they felt like doing, not trying to live God’s way, that if they want to start listening to God, Jesus will wash all that pain away and give us a new start. Then we can start over and live God’s best way. When men and women get married and treat each other the way God treats us, then that makes the world a better place. But you don’t have to get married, but if you do that’s okay with God, too.”

“I have another question:  Why does Heather have two mommies?”

“Can I talk to God about that and let’s talk some more tomorrow?  I’d love for you to help me bake some banana bread and could use your help.  Could we do that?”

Will I Turn Into a Boy, too, Like Chrissy? (Part Three)

“I’m getting hungry” my little guest declared.  We’d been coloring together as we discussed her concern about her playmate Chrissy and Chrissy’s decision to become a boy named Chris.  This sudden event had thrown her into confusion as the adults around her revealed opposing viewpoints and she’d now been forbidden to play with her friend.

“Me, too.  Want to help me finish lunch and get it on the table for us?”  As I instructed her in setting the table, filling the glasses with ice and water, and carrying items to our places, I was frantically searching my mind and heart for God’s viewpoint on the issues of gender identity, transgender, same-sex attraction, and gay marriage and lifestyle.   These points of view are and will continue to be a part of the changing world around her. How do we help our children navigate these confusing and emotion-laden waters?

Finally settling at the table, my young companion clapped her hands in glee at the heart shaped PB&J sandwich, carrot flowers and rose radishes.  She was especially excited about the coming ice-cream rose with raspberry drizzles on marshmallow cream with colorful sprinkles. We were having fun!  We then folded our hands and I thanked God for our food, and for His wisdom to understand our friends. Then we started to eat.

“Would you like for me to tell you something Jesus says about boys and girls?”

“OK,” she agreed, munching on the curly carrot.

“Well, Jesus said that God had a wonderful plan for boys and girls when they become men and women.  He said God made us male and female and that when we get married, we love and take care of each other and help each other live God’s beautiful way.  He also said we are to help our children know Jesus, too, so they can grow up living God’s way of the happiest life forever. How does that sound to you?”


“Jesus said something else, though.  He said that not everybody needs to get married.”

“Really?  Why?”

“Some people God made for something different.  Jesus never got married, and the Apostle Paul wasn’t married, either.  God made some people who make the world a better place just by being a very good friend to so many others.”

She contemplated her rose radish, took a nibble and put it back on her plate.  Nice to look at but not as much fun to eat! “So I don’t have to get married when I grow up?”

“No, you don’t my dear.  But if you change your mind when you’re older, that’s okay, too.  The main thing is that whatever you do, you do it God’s way.”

I handed her a second napkin for the peanut butter on her nose.  “But I have to tell you that not everyone wants to do things God’s way because they don’t like to mind anyone and they want to make up their own rules.”

“You mean like wanting to change into a boy?”

“Yes, that’s one thing.  Do you see how trying to do things not God’s way causes confusion and fussing and sadness?  Chrissy’s uncomfortable about what bathroom to use. Her friends are confused about how to treat her.  Grownups worry about what to do. And teachers are trying to keep everyone happy.”

“Oh.  Then Chrissy didn’t choose God’s way.  So is God mad at Chrissy?”

“No, God knows Chrissy doesn’t understand.  He wants so badly for Chrissy to have what He dreamed for her to have.  But you know, maybe nobody’s told her about God’s best way and I think that makes God sad.   But you and I get to choose the way we follow. I have seen God’s way and it always works if we really listen to Him.  I’m going to follow Jesus’ plan for me. He made us and He knows best. And He’s the greatest of anyone, anywhere and He loves me so much!   And part of God’s way is to be kind to everyone, even if they don’t understand, right?”

“Yeah. They don’t understand,” she mused.  Then as if she’d finally found her answer, she said, “I’m going to be nice to Chrissy, but I know she’s still a girl and just doesn’t know how much God likes her just as the girl she is.”

“Honey, I think that’s very wise of you.  You’ll always be glad you chose God’s dream for you.  There are some other ways people miss out on God’s dream for them?  You may already know some of them.”

She looked up at me, taking a sip of her pineapple-banana juice. “What things?” she asked.

“Some of them are sad,” I offered. “But God gave us the answers so we can understand the best way.”

“Okay,” she answered.  “Can we have dessert first?”

We’d go on from there.  She was curious. Now was the time to show her the Creator’s design, giving her the magnificent vision of beauty and love meant for her.

(To be continued)

Will I Turn Into a Boy, Too, Like Chrissy? (Part Two)

As we sat together, I tried to imagine this child’s confusion as she wrestled with her playmate’s morphing from a girl to a boy…and worrying, could it happen to her?

“How can we tell if we’re girls, do you think?”  I continued coloring the chameleon on the page thinking of the irony. “How can we tell baby boys from baby girls?”

She ducked her head and giggled, unwilling to say the words.

“Are girls and boys made differently on the outside?”

Relieved, she returned to her coloring and said, “Yeah.”  Not daring to say more.  I didn’t want to make this harder on her than it already was.

“Yes, boy people and girl people are made differently, boy cows and girl cows, boy dogs and girl dogs. Also girl dogs have puppies and not boy dogs.”

“Yeah!  My dog Molly is going to have pups soon!” She was relieved to be on benign territory again.

“Did you know there is another way to tell if someone is a boy or a girl?”

Stopping mid stroke, she turned to me surprised, “Really!  How?”

“Scientists and doctors can take cells from our bones or our skin and look very closely at the tiny parts of them and they are actually different.  You’ll hear about DNA…”

“I know about DNA! They talk about it in my science books at school!” she interrupted.

“Good!  Then you know that our DNA tells us all about our bodies.  In fact, our DNA always tells us whether we’re girls or boys.  And that doesn’t change in our bodies.”

“Then how did Chrissy change into a boy?”  She realized the inconsistency between thought and scientific fact.   She was beginning to see the reason for the confusion.

“I have a picture of a lady who decided she’s a cat.  She acts like a cat, meows like a cat, and wants to do what cats do.  Do you think she’s changed into a cat?”

She giggled and said, “No….but she looks funny.”

“Sometimes girls like to do things boys do, like play ball, climb trees, wear boots, or collect bugs. But they can still be girls and grow up and go to the Olympics, or be scientists or game rangers or mommies.  Sometimes boys like to cook or sew or play music or read rather than get dirty or wrestle.  But they can still be boys who grow up to be chefs or tailors, teachers or orchestra conductors or maybe even artists or authors.”

“Have you heard the story of Jacob and Esau in the Bible?” I asked.

“Is he the one with the coat with many colors?”

“Well, that was Joseph. Jacob was his daddy and Esau was his uncle.”  As I explained, she bobbed her head up and down, proud she was in the ballpark at least. “Esau liked to hunt and be outside and even go off on camping trips.  But guess what!”

She stopped coloring and faced me.  “What?!”

“His brother didn’t.  In fact, Jacob–who gave Joseph that beautiful coat–didn’t like to hunt at all.  He stayed inside and was a good cook.  In fact, the Bible says Jacob was his mother’s favorite and Esau was his daddy’s favorite.  Some people would say Jacob must have been gay.  But he wasn’t anythingbad.  He was just the way God made him.  A boy doesn’t have to hunt or be tough or be afraid to sew or cook if that’s what he’s good at.  Do you see what I’m saying?”

“But Chrissy wants to be a boy!” she argued.

“Maybe Chrissy thought because she would rather play outside and climb trees and run races than play with dolls or fix her hair like the other girls, that she had to change into a boy so she could do what she liked.”

Now my little friend’s coloring intensified.  I could tell she was wishing all this wasn’t so complicated.

“And maybe Chrissy feels that way because somebody told her she had to act like they wanted her to instead of being just who God made her.”

She continued coloring, lowering her head a little, contemplating whether to speak.  “I liked racing with Chrissy. Her daddy built her a tree-house and I like that, too.”  She whispered, looking at me as though she was revealing a long-kept secret.

I whispered in return, “I think that sounds like fun.”  She stopped for a second and looked up at me smiling.  Then, continuing my story, I wanted to tell her more about God’s people who didn’t fit our Western mold of manhood or womanhood. “There is a story of the most wonderful woman in the Bible.”  Then I found Proverbs 31 on my smart phone and pointed to verses 16-17.  “It says right here that she bought a field and planted a vineyard and she worked hardoutside.  It said she had strong arms, too.  She also sewed and cooked and dressed pretty.  But working outside and being strong was a good thing.”

“Yeah!” Again nodding her head.  We both returned to our project.

“I’m sad that some people have made Chrissy think that being a girl wasn’t as good as being a boy. And I’m sorry that some people have told her that.  And I’m sorry that other people are mad at her and being mean to her.  I wish she could know that God made her and likes her just like she is.  And I bet she’d really like to hear the stories about God’s women who liked being outside and became judges and travelled with Jesus and camped out and cooked fish!  I think that would be really cool”

We’d both finished our coloring, mine a chameleon and hers a kitten.  She turned to me then with a look of resolve and said words that surprised me and challenged me as well.  She said simply, “I’ll tell her.”

There was still more to consider.  But for now, time to eat.

Will I Turn Into a Boy, Too, Like Chrissy? (Part One)

“Will I turn into a boy, too, like Chrissy?”

The question just burst into the air.  She was coloring at the kitchen table while I made lunch.  Suddenly, involuntarily, the question swam in my brain!  A question that had never occurred to me or any of my friends as a child.  How would her parents answer?  Why had she asked me?  Did she sense that I could be the one who welcomes her questions?  Was I a safe adult in her life?  This was an important moment.  I prayed for wisdom.

“How do you think Chrissy turned into a boy?” I asked.

“I don’t know. She says her name is Chris now and she wears boy’s clothes and cuts her hair short.”

She continued coloring, unwilling to see my expression.

I matched her distractedness by mixing peanut butter and grape jelly.  “That must have been strange to think your friend has changed this way.” I wanted her to know that her feelings were safe with me.

“Yeah. Some of the kids don’t like her any more.  Some of them called her ‘gay,’ too.”

“Do you think that calling her ‘gay’ was a good thing or a bad thing? And what do they mean, ‘gay,'” I encouraged

“I don’t know,” she said.  “The teachers don’t care and tell all of us that Chrissy wants to be a boy and so now she is. But Grandpa and Daddy are mad and don’t want me to play with Chrissy anymore.”  Her wide eyes now searched my face for answers and I saw they were filling with tears. She was so torn.

I set aside my meal preparation and, sitting down next to her, I picked up the crayons and joined her in her coloring, grateful for the relaxing connection.  “Well, Jesus does say to treat people the way we’d want to be treated,” I continued.  “Do you think Chrissy really turned into a boy or do you think she just wants to look like and be treated like a boy instead of a girl?”

“I don’t know,” she repeated.  “She still has to use the girls’ restroom at school because she doesn’t like going to the boys’ bathroom because ….” she stopped then, afraid she was wading into questionable waters.

“Is it because boys go to the bathroom differently from girls, do you think?”

We needed to refocus. I could see she was genuinely confused by the implications of Chrissy’s choice and how she was expected to respond.   The adults in her life were making opposite statements and holding her to opposing expectations.  She was terrified that something out of her control might alienate her from the adults she loved.  There was more to this than her eye could meet…or her young mind embrace.  For her, this was a no-win situation.  What was she to do?

(to be continued)